Write down a specific loss/trauma.
Write down what happened.
Write down what it was like for you?
What beliefs were created from the loss/trauma? Ie. God is mad at me…If only I had…
Are you at peace with the loss/trauma currently?
Did the loss cause trauma and how?
Does the loss/trauma still hurt?
How do you nurture yourself when you feel hurt?
What behaviors today need work? Ie. Areas you need to improve, boundaries you need to set, people you need to forgive, do you need to forgive yourself, feelings you need to feel, love that you need to give to others, to yourself?
Share the inventory with a counselor, clergy or someone experienced in trauma and loss.
Repeat as needed.
*NOTE- No two people experience loss and trauma the same. There is no time limit on grief. Each person should be allowed to experience and process their grief and loss in their own way and in their own time. Be easy on yourself and get help when needed. Help is available for free. Many hospices sponsor bereavement groups and support for anyone in the community who has experienced a death of a family member, a friend, or similar losses.